That's right, by our own FAMILIES! TEACHERS! WELL MEANING OLD PEOPLE & STRANGERS! Sure, they were well meaning, but boy - they were WAY OFF, and it took me the better part of 3 decades to figure it out & stand undoing all that nonsense and I wanted to share it with you so you could start undoing these pressure-filled ideas, too.
Top 10 Myths About Success:
- To be successful the #1 goal of a great, fulfilling life
- There is a formula for success and all you have to do is follow it; if you don't, you won't be successful
- Your bank account is the first and truest indicator of success
- It's visible - if you're successful, others are going to see it everywhere you are
- Success is linear - it's a straight road to the top, you just have to begin
- Your success is directly linked to your family so be sure not to embarrass them
- Once you become successful, then you can start enjoy your life more
- Being successful means you are climbing the ladder & getting promoted
- How successful you are is directly related to how happy you will be in life
- Success is about making more money and having more power in the world
I get where they were going with these fact-like feeling statements: they were trying to give us goals. Goals that were tangible for a thing - SUCCESS - that is turns out is so intangible we only know it by our hearts once we've dismissed the above ideas.
Success is so much more than a bank account, a title, a bragging right - it's a feeling & knowledge that no one can take away from you without your permission.
Once you let go of the widely accepted measuring tools we use for success and have a deep, internal conversation with yourself about values, ideals and what makes you feel truly successful, only then can you achieve the inspiring position of "Successful by my own terms" that inspires every room you walk into.
#RedefineSuccess for yourself, your clients, your friends & the world because success is not to be measured but to be felt with your whole self & soul.
What are some of the definitions of success you use in your life? What example of success are you sharing with your friends, family, and children? Do you want to change that definition?